Sep 23, 2007

Personal Bias!


Sometimes, some incidents catch us off guard...

Recently, the prospect of working closely with a person, who is ‘just-not-like-us’ was suggested, at work… and boy, was I stumped!!

Don’t get me wrong, the person is not really bad or anything…. Actually, I don’t even know the person that well as of now!! But from the moment of the first meet, I began judging the person and somehow I have an impression of the person, as someone I might, in all probability, have trouble relating and working with!! And I don’t even know, why or what made me get this impression….. Maybe it’s the different backgrounds, or just that we did not hit it off that well, at the first meet…..

I have always accepted at being a little bias, towards my friends over others…. Let’s face it, we all are… we happily overlook a mistake our friends make, but if made by an unknown, it is never easily accepted…. Guess it’s natural, maybe to a certain extent, even accepted… At the same time, I also usually have no problem in relating to people of all kinds (as in those who are like me, and those who aren’t like me), because, like it or not, we all need to accept other people and views even if we necessarily don’t agree with them…

But what stood out in this whole incident was the fact that it just bought out the whole façade right in front of my face… and obviously, I didn’t like it one bit! Also, what stuck me, was how limited my exposure to people, in and around me is! Yes, not everyone is like me, or have a similar wavelength, yet, they are some what of a certain section, that I feel and know, I belong to!

I know, at the end of this post, in all probability, people reading it, would be thinking I am some kind of a biased…almost racist person….. but trust me I am NOT…. It’s just that I am yet to learn (and I have a chance in front of me to) to deal and understand and handle people truly representing all the different types of personas and thought processes. Just hope, can do it successfully, and I make more friends along the way! :)

Cheers!

30 comments:

Ajan said...

heeey! cheating.. u were really near into telling the name of that person..but u did not..
ul make more frns rey...crossed my fingers for u

Ajan said...

heeey! cheating.. u were really near into telling the name of that person..but u did not..
ul make more frns rey...crossed my fingers for u

Ajan said...

heeey! cheating.. u were really near into telling the name of that person..but u did not..
ul make more frns rey...crossed my fingers for u

PURN!MA said...

Hey Rachana,
I don't think tis all that abnormal or just subjected to you that you judge people at the first sight. Thats what I do... we all do!

I've had many people tell me that they thought I were a snob or too reserved or too patient... whereas I'm none of the abv... n they eventually come arnd to accept this.

Infact, I think its allays better to have a preconceived notions abt an unknown person, even if u r proved wrong at the later stage... and thats where you start calling Strangers, your friends!

PURN!MA said...

Hey Rachana,
I don't think tis all that abnormal or just subjected to you that you judge people at the first sight. Thats what I do... we all do!

I've had many people tell me that they thought I were a snob or too reserved or too patient... whereas I'm none of the abv... n they eventually come arnd to accept this.

Infact, I think its allays better to have a preconceived notions abt an unknown person, even if u r proved wrong at the later stage... and thats where you start calling Strangers, your friends!

PURN!MA said...

Hey Rachana,
I don't think tis all that abnormal or just subjected to you that you judge people at the first sight. Thats what I do... we all do!

I've had many people tell me that they thought I were a snob or too reserved or too patient... whereas I'm none of the abv... n they eventually come arnd to accept this.

Infact, I think its allays better to have a preconceived notions abt an unknown person, even if u r proved wrong at the later stage... and thats where you start calling Strangers, your friends!

Ananth said...

ALMOST RACIST??? Its Totally Racist!!!.....Didn't expect this off ya Rach :P ... I mean how could you do this???!!!!

P.S : BUHUHAHAHAHHAA ;)

Ananth said...

ALMOST RACIST??? Its Totally Racist!!!.....Didn't expect this off ya Rach :P ... I mean how could you do this???!!!!

P.S : BUHUHAHAHAHHAA ;)

Ananth said...

ALMOST RACIST??? Its Totally Racist!!!.....Didn't expect this off ya Rach :P ... I mean how could you do this???!!!!

P.S : BUHUHAHAHAHHAA ;)

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Hey Rachana, Dontcha worry or feel guilty about judging people at first glance or meet. That is very normal... In fact more normal than not judging ppl... BTW I say guilty becoz thats how this blog came across as.. As if you are feeling guilty about not liking this person. Don't worry... perk up... Next time maybe your best friend and you would be in the same team for a project...

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Hey Rachana, Dontcha worry or feel guilty about judging people at first glance or meet. That is very normal... In fact more normal than not judging ppl... BTW I say guilty becoz thats how this blog came across as.. As if you are feeling guilty about not liking this person. Don't worry... perk up... Next time maybe your best friend and you would be in the same team for a project...

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Hey Rachana, Dontcha worry or feel guilty about judging people at first glance or meet. That is very normal... In fact more normal than not judging ppl... BTW I say guilty becoz thats how this blog came across as.. As if you are feeling guilty about not liking this person. Don't worry... perk up... Next time maybe your best friend and you would be in the same team for a project...

Lust4Life said...

Hi Rach :)

Liked ur attitude at the end of the post.
Guess we all need to continue learning........
May u hav loads of true friends around u.

Btw, ur template rocks :D
Love, Live, Laughter
Lust4Life

Lust4Life said...

Hi Rach :)

Liked ur attitude at the end of the post.
Guess we all need to continue learning........
May u hav loads of true friends around u.

Btw, ur template rocks :D
Love, Live, Laughter
Lust4Life

Lust4Life said...

Hi Rach :)

Liked ur attitude at the end of the post.
Guess we all need to continue learning........
May u hav loads of true friends around u.

Btw, ur template rocks :D
Love, Live, Laughter
Lust4Life

Ode Writer said...

thanks thanks thanks a ton to ALL of you....

well, the days haven't been great, but its' a smooth sailing, anyways.... so far atleast! :)

@L4L: i owe u a BIG BIG BIG apology... not been that regular in visiting and commenting on ur blog.. SORRY!

@Ajan and Ananth... baah... dream on!

@Poo and Teju... thanks again gals :D

Ode Writer said...

thanks thanks thanks a ton to ALL of you....

well, the days haven't been great, but its' a smooth sailing, anyways.... so far atleast! :)

@L4L: i owe u a BIG BIG BIG apology... not been that regular in visiting and commenting on ur blog.. SORRY!

@Ajan and Ananth... baah... dream on!

@Poo and Teju... thanks again gals :D

Ode Writer said...

thanks thanks thanks a ton to ALL of you....

well, the days haven't been great, but its' a smooth sailing, anyways.... so far atleast! :)

@L4L: i owe u a BIG BIG BIG apology... not been that regular in visiting and commenting on ur blog.. SORRY!

@Ajan and Ananth... baah... dream on!

@Poo and Teju... thanks again gals :D

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Teju mat kaho naaaaaa :(

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Teju mat kaho naaaaaa :(

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Teju mat kaho naaaaaa :(

PURN!MA said...

@ Tejaswini...

hehehe I knew that was gonna come :P

PURN!MA said...

@ Tejaswini...

hehehe I knew that was gonna come :P

PURN!MA said...

@ Tejaswini...

hehehe I knew that was gonna come :P

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Kya re purni apna kaam kar... kya jhaankti rehti hai doosron ke comments section mein? :P ;)

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Kya re purni apna kaam kar... kya jhaankti rehti hai doosron ke comments section mein? :P ;)

Tejaswini Shenoy said...

Kya re purni apna kaam kar... kya jhaankti rehti hai doosron ke comments section mein? :P ;)

Ode Writer said...

@Tejaswini......

sorry yaar, almost forgot about ur earlier post w.r.t the "diff versions" of ur names.... SORRY again!!

@Poo....

always welcome to do taak-jhaank in my comments and blog.... (Elections round the corner kyaa?? :P)

Ode Writer said...

@Tejaswini......

sorry yaar, almost forgot about ur earlier post w.r.t the "diff versions" of ur names.... SORRY again!!

@Poo....

always welcome to do taak-jhaank in my comments and blog.... (Elections round the corner kyaa?? :P)

Ode Writer said...

@Tejaswini......

sorry yaar, almost forgot about ur earlier post w.r.t the "diff versions" of ur names.... SORRY again!!

@Poo....

always welcome to do taak-jhaank in my comments and blog.... (Elections round the corner kyaa?? :P)