Jul 24, 2007

Tip of the Iceberg!



Why is it that, so often, when we feel we have moved on from a phase in our life, do some things or events, keep reminding us of them again and again??


And it's not just the memory here, but so many times, the hurt/ feelings and the insecurities creep up too, which we feel, we have overcome! So, do we ever completely letgo of that part of our lives or those things that didn't make us feel all that great????


Or are we stuck with it in some wierd place at the back of our minds, which only resurface when we are made to meet those people or go through events that we associated with these phases of ur life???


I mean, think about it, we all have been, at some or the other point of time, insecure or in positions, where, we were uncomfortable being ourselves, and over time, we grow out of these situations, either by making new friends, meeting new people, developing new skills, so on and so forth. YET, when we look back or meet a familiar face or event from that phase, why do our insecurities come flooding out to us, and the whole change and growth, somewhere seem a li'l shallow???



Maybe, I am yet to completely outgrow that "phase", but what ever it is, I hope i dont have tio face it again, and again....... atleast as of now, I am not prepared to face itand give it my best!






AND to all my blogging frnds (Poo, l4l, Ajan, AJ, etc)..... thx a lot for chkin my posts and commenting, and sorry wasn't able to do the same, but will do it ASAP!!




12 comments:

Ajan said...

ok! now this is kinda difficult..
lemme ask you a few questions..
1. Were you in a confused state when you were wrting?

2. Where you thinking about your ole friends?

3. Did you pass by your school or some place where you have enjoyed,recently??

hehehe! coz o the above reasons same stuff hapns for me... :)

Ajan said...

ok! now this is kinda difficult..
lemme ask you a few questions..
1. Were you in a confused state when you were wrting?

2. Where you thinking about your ole friends?

3. Did you pass by your school or some place where you have enjoyed,recently??

hehehe! coz o the above reasons same stuff hapns for me... :)

Ajan said...

ok! now this is kinda difficult..
lemme ask you a few questions..
1. Were you in a confused state when you were wrting?

2. Where you thinking about your ole friends?

3. Did you pass by your school or some place where you have enjoyed,recently??

hehehe! coz o the above reasons same stuff hapns for me... :)

PURN!MA said...

Sorry Rachana..but can't answer your 'why' questions... I'm trying to figure it out myself.

me too been thru all this..n it still hurts me to think of those days/ situations. and wht more! it happens with people to whom u r very close.

But i guess thats the way it is.. u carry on with ur life n try to overcome the same... n not think a lot about it(thats wt i tried doing..and it helps...well to some extent)

Gal, mez toooooo sleepy now! can't think nemore...so 1 sound advice..forget n go to sleep..yaaaaaaawn! oh yeah..don't forget to chk my blog..updated!

PURN!MA said...

Sorry Rachana..but can't answer your 'why' questions... I'm trying to figure it out myself.

me too been thru all this..n it still hurts me to think of those days/ situations. and wht more! it happens with people to whom u r very close.

But i guess thats the way it is.. u carry on with ur life n try to overcome the same... n not think a lot about it(thats wt i tried doing..and it helps...well to some extent)

Gal, mez toooooo sleepy now! can't think nemore...so 1 sound advice..forget n go to sleep..yaaaaaaawn! oh yeah..don't forget to chk my blog..updated!

PURN!MA said...

Sorry Rachana..but can't answer your 'why' questions... I'm trying to figure it out myself.

me too been thru all this..n it still hurts me to think of those days/ situations. and wht more! it happens with people to whom u r very close.

But i guess thats the way it is.. u carry on with ur life n try to overcome the same... n not think a lot about it(thats wt i tried doing..and it helps...well to some extent)

Gal, mez toooooo sleepy now! can't think nemore...so 1 sound advice..forget n go to sleep..yaaaaaaawn! oh yeah..don't forget to chk my blog..updated!

sakship said...

well an interesting blog!! we can never put our past behind us!! and yeah as poornima pointed out many such mostly hurtful are associated with people close to us!! so maybe instead of letting hurt and insecure resurface it is better to see how you got over it and the lessons learnt from each event.. i cant remember who said it but take as much positivity from the negativity ... and if ever you doubt yourself or your worth call someone close to you who has always made you feel good about yourself..always help.. as humans it is always rare to not have insecurities and life as it is loves throwing us obstacles that make us doubt ourselves all the time so better to get over the past obstacles learn the lessons and face the new ones to realise ur strenghts!!! till than cheers to life when it is going good!!! :)

sakship said...

well an interesting blog!! we can never put our past behind us!! and yeah as poornima pointed out many such mostly hurtful are associated with people close to us!! so maybe instead of letting hurt and insecure resurface it is better to see how you got over it and the lessons learnt from each event.. i cant remember who said it but take as much positivity from the negativity ... and if ever you doubt yourself or your worth call someone close to you who has always made you feel good about yourself..always help.. as humans it is always rare to not have insecurities and life as it is loves throwing us obstacles that make us doubt ourselves all the time so better to get over the past obstacles learn the lessons and face the new ones to realise ur strenghts!!! till than cheers to life when it is going good!!! :)

sakship said...

well an interesting blog!! we can never put our past behind us!! and yeah as poornima pointed out many such mostly hurtful are associated with people close to us!! so maybe instead of letting hurt and insecure resurface it is better to see how you got over it and the lessons learnt from each event.. i cant remember who said it but take as much positivity from the negativity ... and if ever you doubt yourself or your worth call someone close to you who has always made you feel good about yourself..always help.. as humans it is always rare to not have insecurities and life as it is loves throwing us obstacles that make us doubt ourselves all the time so better to get over the past obstacles learn the lessons and face the new ones to realise ur strenghts!!! till than cheers to life when it is going good!!! :)

Riddhi said...

Insecurity is wat u r dealing with in ur past [for example] then i guess u must have tried outgrowing it by making new frds etc etc... May be your approach was incorrect.

Insecurity is just a feeling. A feeling is like water. If you let it flow through you then it flows away and disappears; but if you dont let it go and hold on to it then it will stay wit you till d time you let it free.

All I am trying to say from my experiences is that i do agree wit you dat we do feel that "hurt" which we have overcomed in d past and yet we cant get rid of it when some similar situation crops up in front of you. If something like this happens it only means that you are still holding on it. You have not accepted it completely.

SO go ahead and accept the hurt with all your embrace. Feel hurt as much as possible. When you reach a point where you feel that your hurt is d deepest; you will discover that there was no hurt at all.

You will feel free. And d next time when you come across the similar situation ; you will simply smile and wonder "how come it ws so hard for you at that point of time!"

Its a human nature to not let go off feelings without having it reasearched enuf in your mind. I am signalling the amount of thinking one gives to any feeling. If its more; then the feeling still stays and if its less then d feelings flow out. Its upon you to decide wat suits you d best.

There are ppl with different attitude and may think a lot or think less accordin to the standards they set for variuos kinds feelings. So it is subjective.

However I cud be wrong .. but the above attitude has made me come thrugh a lot of pain and so i am sharing it wit you too.

take care

bye

loads of love

Riddhi

Riddhi said...

Insecurity is wat u r dealing with in ur past [for example] then i guess u must have tried outgrowing it by making new frds etc etc... May be your approach was incorrect.

Insecurity is just a feeling. A feeling is like water. If you let it flow through you then it flows away and disappears; but if you dont let it go and hold on to it then it will stay wit you till d time you let it free.

All I am trying to say from my experiences is that i do agree wit you dat we do feel that "hurt" which we have overcomed in d past and yet we cant get rid of it when some similar situation crops up in front of you. If something like this happens it only means that you are still holding on it. You have not accepted it completely.

SO go ahead and accept the hurt with all your embrace. Feel hurt as much as possible. When you reach a point where you feel that your hurt is d deepest; you will discover that there was no hurt at all.

You will feel free. And d next time when you come across the similar situation ; you will simply smile and wonder "how come it ws so hard for you at that point of time!"

Its a human nature to not let go off feelings without having it reasearched enuf in your mind. I am signalling the amount of thinking one gives to any feeling. If its more; then the feeling still stays and if its less then d feelings flow out. Its upon you to decide wat suits you d best.

There are ppl with different attitude and may think a lot or think less accordin to the standards they set for variuos kinds feelings. So it is subjective.

However I cud be wrong .. but the above attitude has made me come thrugh a lot of pain and so i am sharing it wit you too.

take care

bye

loads of love

Riddhi

Riddhi said...

Insecurity is wat u r dealing with in ur past [for example] then i guess u must have tried outgrowing it by making new frds etc etc... May be your approach was incorrect.

Insecurity is just a feeling. A feeling is like water. If you let it flow through you then it flows away and disappears; but if you dont let it go and hold on to it then it will stay wit you till d time you let it free.

All I am trying to say from my experiences is that i do agree wit you dat we do feel that "hurt" which we have overcomed in d past and yet we cant get rid of it when some similar situation crops up in front of you. If something like this happens it only means that you are still holding on it. You have not accepted it completely.

SO go ahead and accept the hurt with all your embrace. Feel hurt as much as possible. When you reach a point where you feel that your hurt is d deepest; you will discover that there was no hurt at all.

You will feel free. And d next time when you come across the similar situation ; you will simply smile and wonder "how come it ws so hard for you at that point of time!"

Its a human nature to not let go off feelings without having it reasearched enuf in your mind. I am signalling the amount of thinking one gives to any feeling. If its more; then the feeling still stays and if its less then d feelings flow out. Its upon you to decide wat suits you d best.

There are ppl with different attitude and may think a lot or think less accordin to the standards they set for variuos kinds feelings. So it is subjective.

However I cud be wrong .. but the above attitude has made me come thrugh a lot of pain and so i am sharing it wit you too.

take care

bye

loads of love

Riddhi