- Zig Ziglar
| change can be seen as exit from one phase and entry into another |
| change can be seen as exit from one phase and entry into another |
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“Every Action always has an equal and opposite reaction” – Isaac Newton
Relations are really like an outstretched rubber band! To snap it, or to use it, it has to be handled in the same manner at both the ends. If both sides are pulled, it snaps… if both sides keep it steady, it stays on…. And if one side keeps pulling, while the other side does nothing, it will still snap! But then, it’s not the other side breaking it, it’s the force of the snapping side itself acting against it, while all you are doing then is watching the band break itself…..
So, what do you do then?... Do you tell the other side, to stop pulling? Do you start pushing or pulling; depending on what you think is right then?? Or do you just watch it break?
Maybe, just maybe…. It’s better to let nature take it’s own course… don’t you think?

Anyways, the movie I saw was a sweet and a very typical ‘chick-flick’ called Bride Wars! Now, before you smirk and judge me, let me tell you, it’s the sort of movie I would secretly watch on Star Movies, and never admit it (heck, I just did!!), but I couldn’t have found a better movie to watch with my best friend! Also, it’s a very ‘in-the-right-frame-of-mind’ movie, if you are not feeling ‘girlie’ enough (don’t ask me what that’s to mean), this would be a bore, cardboard cut out of any other movie from the same genre!
Without giving away too much, let me tell you what the movie does have – two cute ‘best friends’, gorgeous almost-perfect boyfriends & secret lovers, and loads of emotional and funny moments* and thankfully, the movie DOESN’T HAVE is a vamp, a love triangle and unnecessary drama! A perfect watch for all you girls out there before you start your stressful and hectic week! And for heaven’s sake, leave the poor guys out of this one, because, they won’t have a clue what is so funny, when two friends meet to bitch about someone, or what is so touching when one of them decides to do something ‘awwwwww’ for another!
The movie has a simple message – some relations and friendships are forever, don’t let your ego get in the way, because you would be doing as much damage to yourself, as to the other person and the relation! Reminds my college professor’s words, which I cherish till date – is your friendship/ relation so frail and cheap that something so simple can break it? Alternatively, do think when you give something as much importance to let it affect your view and assumption on someone, if it’s all really worth it?... really, is it?
* applicable only for giggling girls...
oh, also, i know this post totally makes me sound like a dumb blonde, but let me tell you, the black's an original!
There has been a lot of talk on this for too long now, and though most have had their say, I am still unconvinced with their versions on it! I have friends for whom it’s a living reality, so to speak… a few others, who rant a lot about it, especially on their blog and stuff… and going by the number of weddings I have been attending, I presume ‘Love’ is well, everywhere right now!
Yeah, I am writing about it… and before anyone with their over fertile imagination begins, let me say, this is not based on any personal experience or stuff, and neither am I in love or planning to get married or anywhere remotely close! So, disclaimers done, here are my views on this pretty vague topic!
I have always found talks on love rather bemusing! For I believe people most often do confuse ‘love’ as an emotion with ‘relations’ that it gets into existence! Yes, these are, according to me, two rather distinct and separate things. Love in itself, is an emotion, and a very positive one at that, that touches people at different times in their lives towards different people. It is not that complex, if you see it all by itself. Love is not about holding hands or spending time together. The funny part of emotions is that, inspite of being universal, it still is very individualistic for each person, in himself, and the same holds true for love. It leaves a mark on each of us, in its own distinct way. Its something that stays with you, even when the person may not be around. Its something, which once it touches you, changes you forever, in one way or another. Love just needs to be felt, and acknowledging its existence within you, is enough to make you feel good about yourself and things around you! It’s a bond between those involved that surpasses time and space. Love doesn’t fear saturation; it just evolves, in its own terms, in its own varied forms and shapes. It doesn’t demand anything anything, even love in return. Just as you wouldn’t expect jealousy from a person you are jealous of, love doesn’t expect love from its object of affection, which is why it’s the emotion of giving. Its about being aware of the fact that we are capable of giving and sharing so much of ourselves as individuals without expecting much in return. Its not about worrying, if this would last, but its about knowing, that this will!
Relations, on the other hand, are a different ball game altogether. It is very funny, if you notice, how God’s simple emotion can be turned into a complex structure by man’s creation of relations. I am not against relations, mind you, but its sure stupid, when people equate the nature of the relations with the proportion of love. Love doesn’t need a relation to sustain it. It stays with a person, till the person is capable of emoting, in a way or another. Relationships, on the other hand, require love at their core to keep them going. While love is an emotion by itself, relationship is a commitment, an intention between the parties involved, to shape the bond or love shared between them into something distinct and unique. Relations more often than not, are based on our ‘need’ to be loved, more than our love towards the other person. And it is precisely this need that raises expectations and complicates things between two people, who may actually and truly love each other. More often than not, we hurt people we love the most, because, we expect the most from them. This is not saying that the love ceases to exist, it is just when the normal and human instincts getting better of us, than the emotion. The love still stays, just in a rather dormant form within! Like I said, we humans just love complicating things, and most often than not, we do!
Figuring out if something is love or not, well is a different question all by itself, and although I cant say much on that, I can just ask you to NOT rely on movies or books for any direction in this regard. Life doesn’t give you background music, or stormy indications like lightening or flashes and stuff, but it does give you something, a movie might never…. A smile on your face and a song in your heart!
With all this crap, I end my lecture on the MOST over rated topic of the century!
Note: This author is partly delusional and would not always want to be associated with this post. So beware!
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okie, before i conclude wanna tell u all that the crazy website where u can do more such stuff is http://www.blogthings.com [ cant place a seperate link to each quiz, since my blogger is creating trouble for me].... go ahead and tell me ur own results :)
So, here goes the Website's "prediction" about yours truly.....
Influential in organizations: I would like to believe so…. Then again, who wouldn’t !
Fun to be with: YEP……. My testimonials say so…(got to believe them sometimes at least ;))
Loves to socialize: Hahahahhaha…… well anyone who knows me even remotely, knows I can go into hibernation mode at home for days on end, without seeing the sunlight… so this is definitely a NO-NO
Loves to Party: If having a good time, means partying…., then yes….. if it means “partying” then NO! :P
Loves praises: Why else do u think I am doing this piece of crap? :O :P
Loves attention: Uh huh!!
Loves to be loved: Come on….tell me something MORE Unique…..!
Honest and trustworthy: Yes…. I can be brutally honest at times... and mostly all have been at the receiving end….and yes, I have a way with secrets…. I simply forget them :P
Not pretending:
Short tempered: 10 mins….. the max I have been without screaming in a mad fit!
Changing personality: YES…. Changes with company…!
Not egoistic: I STRONGLY disagree….. I have an EGO and sometimes, a bit too big ;)
Take high pride in oneself: MAKE UP ur mind yaa….. I just said so…!
Hates restrictions: Remember Paagal Panchi.com??? :P
Loves to joke: Nooooo…… I never joke in my life…. Have always been a tight ass… :P
Good sense of humor: ABSOLUTELY not… can only give the retard a run for their money… the rest don’t even count me in!
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