"Some people believe holding on
and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when
it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it."
-- Ann Landers
-- Ann Landers
We human beings are natural clingers.
We seek comfort in the knowledge of the familiar. While it is a popular and
definitely true that success comes to those who hold on, long after others have
given up, there are also times, when you may simply be hanging on because it is
a safer, more convenient option than accepting the truth. Contradictory? Yes
and no. While on a superficial level it is all but possible that a ‘formula’ or
a strategy that worked at a given point of time be undertaken again and again,
for success, the truth is seldom as simple. Holding on can get you success at
certain times, but it can also thwart your success. Holding on may, in most
cases, get you what you have been trying to achieve, so desperately, but it can
also blind you from what could possibly be bigger and better things that may be
waiting right at your doorstep. It’s the classic case of settling for the “good”,
when there is the “best” waiting for you.
Sometimes, some of us hold on, simply because
we are afraid of the unknown, clinging on to the known, the safe waters is the
easiest option. Some hold on, because they cannot give up on something-
anything! And sometimes, and this is the hardest, we cling on because we truly,
with all our heart, believe that it will work out. This is the hardest,
because, despite our best intentions, we refuse to read the writing on the
wall; we prefer to not understand that this will not work out. Hard to be in
this situation, when hope is all that we have and yet it seems like the best
option – better than the unknown.
And then, there is the other side –
the side which prefers to give up all so easily. You haven’t met those? The
ones who would rather look the other way because this is too much stress or because
this is too demanding. The ones who would much rather walk away from a
relationship or a situation than hang in there or try and work it out. Got what
i mean? The ones who believe in finding a new path where they see a curve in
the current one. Don’t get me wrong, while our traditional values will scream
that this is a very shallow and superficial manner in facing a situation, truth
remains that some of these “walk-aways” have been the brains behind a few
inventions in history and even the less famous of these “walk-aways” live happy
lives as they believe they have chosen the best lives, without waiting and
struggling for the good to show up! Makes sense?
So how does one choose? How does one understand
the key to this discretion? Of the eternal balance between holding on or
letting go? While there may be no right answers to these, there sure could be
certain pointers. Given that most choices are half chances and that the success
rate, no matter what you do, will always be a good 50%, there remain no right
or wrong answers and definitely no generalisations. Priorities differ,
expectations differ, attitudes and perceptions differ. But what remains is the
power of choice. Most of us have te right to make a choice- to hold on or to
let go. What we forget is that we can choose and that making a conscious, aware
and discrete choice with responsibility is what seperates a successful choice
from the rest.
After all, as is said: “Life is the sum of all your choices.” --Albert Camus
Have a choicest life ahead!
P.S: i am not selling anything –
ANYTHING and neither preaching. Just thinking aloud.
P.P.S: the title of this post is an Instrumental from Pink Floyd's Dark Side of Moon.
P.P.S: the title of this post is an Instrumental from Pink Floyd's Dark Side of Moon.